Borderline's Woman Is Predictable

1. Extreme projection: "I am not controlling, you are!", "Stop screaming at me!", "You always treat me like shit!"
2. Splitting: everything is black and white or good or bad. If you are not with her then you are against her.
3. Everything is your fault: she pours continual blame till you say to yourself, "I cannot do anything right!"
4. My needs are more important: everything is about her and if you do what she needs then everything will be good for you.
5. I win, you lose, or no one wins: you are damned if you do and damned if you don't.
6. Keep you distance! No, I mean a little closer: this drives you crazy; I want you close but feel worthless and afraid if you find out I need you.
7. Verbal abuse: domination, assaults, abusive expectations, unpredictable responses, denial, and chaos, "I am telling you this to make you a better person!"
8. Emotional blackmail: she is a master of manipulation.

How to Handle a Narcissitic Woman

1- Give her options; she likes to be in control. Such a woman is a control freak. This also prevents nasty fits.
2- Focus on solutions and not on problems; define present problems and give her possible solutions, otherwise she will smell blood in the water and tear you apart exactly like a shark does.
3- Make her the hero because she lives for attention and admiration; if you want her to do something, tell her how great she is at it and watch her perform.
4- Let her think it is her idea; stealing credit is a driving force for her.
5- Manage her emotional blind spot; you!!! She does not perceive your feelings and points of view, so put them on the table and watch what happens. Mind you!!! Its is a dangerous choice that you make.